10 Things Every Couple Should Talk About After Getting Engaged (Before You Pick the Cake)

You said yes. You popped champagne. You posted the ring pic (obviously). But now what?

Before you dive into cake tastings and Pinterest spirals, take a breath. Because as exciting as wedding planning is, marriage planning is where the real magic happens.

Getting engaged is more than a ring and a save-the-date. It’s your chance to sit down with your partner, pour a couple of iced coffees (or glasses of wine), and have some real, honest, sometimes deep, sometimes hilarious conversations about your future.

Here are 10 must-have convos to help you lay the foundation for a marriage that feels like home. And don’t worry—it’s not all spreadsheets and budget talk (though, yes, there will be some of that too).

1. Let’s Talk Money, Honey 💸

It’s not sexy, but it’s necessary. Money is one of the top things couples argue about—not because it’s inherently dramatic, but because everyone has a different relationship with it.

What to chat about:

• How do you each feel about saving vs. spending?
• Are you team “joint account,” “yours/mine/ours,” or “let’s figure it out later”?
• Any debts, credit scores, or student loans hanging out in the shadows?
• What are your big financial goals? Buying a home? Traveling the world? Starting a goat sanctuary?

Why it matters:
You don’t need identical money styles, but you do need transparency, teamwork, and a shared game plan. A couple that budgets together stays together (or at least avoids passive-aggressive Venmo requests).

2. Careers, Dreams, and That Random Idea to Open a Coffee Shop ☕

Your careers will shape your lifestyle, your schedule, and sometimes your zip code. This is the time to get real about what you each want out of work and life.

Questions to ask:

• Where do you see your career in five years (and do you want your partner there too)?
• Would you move for a dream job?
• How do you each feel about hustle culture vs. slow living?
• Do you want to retire at 40 and live in a van? Or climb the corporate ladder and get matching blazers?

Why it matters:
Dreams change. Life twists. But knowing what lights each other up—and how to support that—makes all the difference.

3. Kids? No Kids? Fur Babies Only? 👶🐾

Let’s just get to the big one: Do you want kids?

Things to discuss:

• If yes: How many? When? Do you already have name lists saved on your phone?
• If no: Are you on the same page, and is that page laminated?
• How were you both raised, and how does that affect your views on parenting?
• If fertility becomes a challenge, how would you feel about IVF, adoption, surrogacy, or staying a party of two?

Why it matters:
There are no wrong answers, only honest ones. And the earlier you talk about it, the better.

4. Fight Club (But Make It Loving and Productive) 🥊❤️

Every couple argues. It’s not if, but how.

What to unpack:

• What’s your fight style—slow burn or quick spark?
• How do you each like to resolve things? (Talk it out? Cool off first? Hug it out?)
• Are there any “below the belt” things to avoid?

Why it matters:
Learning how to fight fair is a marriage superpower. Think of it as choosing to fight for each other, not against each other.

5. Let’s Talk About (Emotional) Intimacy 💋

Physical connection is important—but emotional closeness is the glue.

Conversation starters:

• What makes you feel most loved? (Hint: try the five love languages test!)
• How do you each like to show affection?
• What makes you feel emotionally safe?

Why it matters:
Understanding what fills your partner’s cup (and yours) is the key to staying connected—even on the days when everything feels messy and loud and very, very not romantic.

6. Faith, Values, and The Big “What Matters Most” 🕊️

You don’t have to have the same religion, but shared values are huge.

Things to explore:

• What role (if any) does faith or spirituality play in your lives?
• Are there traditions or holidays you want to honor together?
• If you have kids, how will you teach them about beliefs and values?

Why it matters:
Faith can mean different things to different people. What’s important is that you feel respected, heard, and able to blend your beliefs in a way that honors you both.

7. The Social Life Breakdown: Couch vs. Crowd 🛋️🎉

One of you is an extrovert. The other is allergic to small talk. Let’s talk social lives.

Chat about:

• How much socializing do you both need to feel sane?
• How do you feel about hosting people in your home?
• What are your boundaries around “me time” vs. “we time”?

Why it matters:
Compatibility isn’t about being the same—it’s about respecting each other’s rhythms. And knowing when your person needs a solo Target run.

8. Chores, Bills, and That Pile of Laundry 🧺

It’s not glamorous. But it’s what life is made of.

Questions to answer:

• Who does what around the house? (Cleaning, laundry, groceries, killing spiders.)
• What’s your standard of “clean” and are you both happy with it?
• How will you split expenses—50/50, by income, or a shared budget?

Why it matters:
Resentment grows in the dishwasher. Talking about household expectations early keeps things fair—and way more peaceful.

9. Health, Wellness, and Showing Up When It Gets Hard ❤️‍🩹

We all have bodies. We all have minds. Sometimes they need help.

Conversations to have:

• Do you have any health challenges or family history stuff to be aware of?
• How do you each approach wellness (physically, mentally, emotionally)?
• Are you open to therapy? (Spoiler: therapy is amazing.)

Why it matters:
Marriage is about walking beside someone through everything—celebrations, setbacks, and doctor’s appointments. The more open you are now, the stronger you’ll be later.

10. What Does “Our Life” Actually Look Like? 🛤️

This is where it all comes together.

Daydream together:

• Where do you want to live long-term? (City? Mountains? Somewhere with a great farmers market?)
• What does your ideal day-to-day life look like 5, 10, 20 years from now?
• How do you want your marriage to feel?

Why it matters:
You’re not just planning a wedding—you’re planning a life. This is the stuff that keeps you aligned through every twist and turn.

The Best Part? These Conversations Are Just the Beginning 💬

You don’t need to figure everything out at once. You just need to keep talking.

These conversations aren’t about ticking boxes or creating some perfect roadmap. They’re about building a shared vision—and knowing that it’s okay for that vision to evolve. What matters is that you’re growing together, listening, laughing, and holding space for each other through it all.

And when it comes time to plan your wedding—whether it’s 20 people in a backyard, 80 guests at a private estate, or a multi-day celebration somewhere stunning—know that there are people (like us) cheering you on every step of the way.

At WedBnB, we don’t just help you find a venue. We stand for supporting couples through their full journey—from “Will you?” to “We still do.”

Because your wedding should feel like you.
And so should your life.